Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Week 3: Fear Factors in Parenting




INTRODUCTION:
Nothing prepares us for parenting.

Shelia Wray Gregoire says, “Some degree of fear is natural in parents. We love our kids so much that the thought of anything bad happening to them sends us into a panic. Yet, if we’re not careful, this caution can become oppressive. When we let fear dominate our parenting, we can actually shield our kids from the very things they need to be dealing with.”

Who were good parent role models in your life?
Have you emulated them in your parenting?
What does a nurturing home environment look like?

WE DON’T PARENT ALONE:
Previously extended families lived in the same home or on the same farm. People were less mobile and spent more time together. Then it became the norm that extended families lived further away- now it seems more and more parents are moving closer to adult children to help with parenting.
Without help of extended families there are friends and “adoptive” families and church family to help.
Of course God is always available 24/7.
James 1:5-

All we need to do is call upon our Father and he will help. Of course, I like instant messaging better. J

What is your biggest fear in raising children? Why?
How does knowing God wants to give you comfort help with parenting fears?

Name a fear you have conquered concerning your parenting. How have your overcome this fear?

GOD ENABLES US TO DO WHAT HE REQUIRES:
When feeling overwhelmed it helps to look back upon fears that we have conquered or times that we felt similar.  We can then see the outcomes and rest assured that the end will come.

1 Samuel 17:37 and 47 b- David and Goliath- When David was about to face Goliath he remembered how God had given him strength before and he trusted him in this time of need.
All of us face our own Goliaths they just look different.

A practical solution is to list times in our past when God “came to the rescue” things that brought us fear. This list will be a reminder to us of God’s faithfulness in all times. Refer to it and times of anxiety.

PRAY WITHOUT CEASING:
Isaiah 41:10 God is the ultimate protector. Things can happen to our children and with our parenting no matter what we may do.

Endless prayers include: safety, health… We all know of tragedies that happen with children and yet we can not always provide the protection needed from these things- God is the ultimate protector- yet things still happen that we fear.
Share from Praying the Scriptures for Your Children  p. 116-117


1 Thessalonians 5:17 “Pray continually” without ceasing to the One who never ceases to hear.

What is the most important thing we can pray for concerning our children? (A top- ten list)

APPLICATION:

Wray says that “It’s easy to think that we have control over our children’s futures. The fact is, most of the time, our kids’ lives turn out completely different than we plan.” And yet God is not surprised!

God fashioned these works of art and carefully placed them in our arms. He waits nearby to help us with any need.

1 Peter 5:7 God cares about what we care about.

Matthew7:11 God is waiting to give to us and to bless us

Proverbs 22:6 God instructs us to train our children. He assures us that the training will stay with our children. It is assuring to know that even if our children stray from the path we have trained them to follow they will return- Remember the prodigal son?!  Also works for us- because even when we as God’s children “blow it” he welcomes us back with open arms ready to throw a party for us!

Share a hope you have for your child in their future.

What is one character trait that you possess that you hope does not get passes down to your children?

Other than prayer, what else do you do or can you do to encourage your child’s spiritual growth? 

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